Oral Sex for Women & Men: GUIDE with Risks, Benefits & Useful Tips

Oral sex involves using the mouth to stimulate the genitals or genital area of ​​a sexual partner. Types of oral sex include stimulation of the penis (fellatio), vagina (cunnilingus), and anus (anilingus).

What is oral sex?

Oral sex is a fairly common sexual position among couples of all ages and genders. He often plays the role of foreplay before intercourse. Many couples use it as a way to warm up or get into the right atmosphere for penetrative intercourse, but oral stimulation can also play an important role during, or even after, sex. This position can also be just as enjoyable as a stand-alone act. Sometimes couples felt that oral sex was even more pleasurable than penetrative sex.

What does oral sex entail?

Oral sex requires a partner and whatever position works best for you. In the case of this sexual activity, one of the partners will use their mouth, lips or tongue to stimulate the partner's penis, vagina or anus. Oral sex thus gives both you and your partner the chance to feel good outside of the actual penetrative act.

Eighty-five percent of sexually active adults between the ages of 18 and 44 report having oral sex with an opposite-sex partner at least once. However, it's important to remember that oral sex isn't just for straight couples. People in same-sex or mixed-sex relationships can also give or receive oral stimulation.

Cunnilingus, Fellatio & Anilingus - What's the difference?

Most often, oral sex is of three types

• cunnilingus when the vagina is stimulated

• fellatio when the penis is stimulated

• anilingus when the anus is stimulated

However, the above three are informal names. Often we will come across much more informal names when we talk about oral sex: blowjob/bj or Lewinski for fellatio, 69 when the partners simultaneously stimulate both the penis and the vagina, rimming for anilingus.

Cunnilingus - Oral sex in women

Cunnilingus consists of stimulating the vagina or clitoris with the mouth. This type of stimulation is usually done by sucking or licking the outside and around the vulva.

Fellatio - Oral sex in men

Fellatio is the stimulation of the penis with the lips, tongue or teeth. It usually involves a sucking or licking motion, but may also include neck movements or use of the teeth.

What does Anilingus mean?

Rimming is the stimulation of the anus using the tongue and lips.

Sexually transmitted diseases from oral sex

Although oral sex is a widespread practice when it comes to sex life, there are still a number of myths and misinformation when it comes to this activity. One of these myths is that there are no risks when it comes to oral sex. This is not true. Even if oral sex does not involve the risk of pregnancy, there is still the risk of getting a sexually transmitted disease (STD). It's good to know that the chances of getting an STD from oral sex are slightly lower than from genital sex, but the risk is still there.

• You may get some STDs in your mouth or throat after having oral sex with a partner who has a genital or anal/rectal STD.
• It is possible to get certain STDs on your genitals and genital areas after receiving oral sex from a partner with a mouth or throat infection.
• It is possible to have an STD in several areas at the same time. For example, you can have an STD in your throat and on your genitals.
• Several sexually transmitted diseases (ie, syphilis, gonorrhea, and intestinal infections) that are transmitted through oral sex can spread throughout the body.
• In the case of anilingus, hepatitis A and B can be transmitted. Also, oral sex involving the anus can transmit intestinal parasites such as Giardia and bacteria such as E.coli and Shigella.
• If you have an STD, you may not know it because many STDs are asymptomatic. It is possible to spread STDs even when you have no signs or symptoms.

Sexually transmitted diseases that can be transmitted through oral sex are:

• GONORRHEA
• chlamydia
• HSV-1 and HSV-2 (herpes)
• pox
• HPV
• HIV
• Hepatitis A and B

How to reduce the risks of oral sex?

It's important to protect yourself with oral sex, just as you protect yourself with penetrative sex. The safest method of protection is to use a condom or a foil for oral sex. Oral sex foils are square-shaped strips of latex that are placed over the vagina or anus during anilingus or cunnilingus for protection during intercourse.

Another way to reduce the risks of oral sex is to practice this activity when you are in a stable, monogamous relationship with a partner who has tested negative for sexually transmitted diseases. Even with all prevention methods, it is good to go for screening at least once a year.

The benefits of oral sex

Over the years, several studies have been conducted to discover the benefits of oral sex. Besides the fact that oral sex is a good way to check sexual compatibility and discover new ways of giving and receiving pleasure, oral sex also has a number of medical benefits.

Some of these benefits are the following:

• helps improve sleep quality

• has anti-aging effects

• reduce breast cancer risk (link to breast cancer article?)

• improves memory

• it is more effective than many pain pills when it comes to back pain, headaches or even cramps

How is oral sex done in women?

Oral sex in women is called cunnilingus and consists of stimulating the vagina or clitoris with the mouth.

Female oral sex techniques

In the following we suggest some techniques that can improve your sexual experience during cunnilingus.

• With the flat of your tongue, lick her underwear in long strokes until you wet the fabric - and her..

• When ready for action, spend some time paying attention to the point above the clitoris. Give your inner thighs some love too.

• Place your wet tongue on the bottom of the vulva and lick upwards. Repeat.

• Flex your tongue and use the tip to lick tiny circles over the clitoral hood—the little flap of skin above the clitoris.

• Use your fingers to gently pull the hood up so you can focus, with the tip of your bent tongue, on the clitoris. Start with light pressure and gradually speed things up.

• When you get into a rhythm that she likes, maintain it until you make her orgasm.

Comfortable positions

If you have a little imagination you can turn almost any penetrative sex position into an oral sex position. We have some recommendations for you:

• Lay back and enjoy. Lie on your back with a pillow under your bottom and your legs apart while your partner lies or kneel between your legs, facing the center of the action.

• Obsessed with control. Lie on your back as your partner rides your face so that you control the movements and the pressure.

• Almost 69. It doesn't take much imagination to figure out how this position works. Through her, the partner will have the promised pleasure, which she can return if she wants

Safety and cleaning

The best method of protection you can use for oral sex with a partner with a vulva is oral sex foil. This is a thin latex barrier that you place over the vulva. These foils can be ordered online, or you can use a condom as a handy alternative

Remember to wash both before and after oral sex.

Common questions

Q: Can you really play with your clit?

A: You can do this! If you gently push the clitoris with your tongue you can create a sensation of pleasure and make the action more exciting. To get an idea of ​​how to play with your clit in a way that's enjoyable for both of you, imagine a puppy licking an ice cream cone.

Q: Do you have to insert your tongue or do you prefer to keep the activity non-penetrative?

A: This depends on your and your partner's preferences. Some people find tongue penetration absolutely sexy and arousing. It is good to keep in mind that there are fewer nerve endings involved in this action, so the sensations will not be as intense.

Q: What if they are on their period or pregnant?

A: If everyone is ok with the idea there is no medical obstacle. It is good to focus more on the clitoris when the partner is menstruating. Remember that blood can have a metallic smell and taste. A mouth guard can help if you're not a fan of the taste.

How do men perform oral sex?

Oral sex in men is done by stimulating the penis with the lips, tongue or teeth. It usually involves a sucking or licking motion, but may also include neck movements or use of the teeth.

Male oral sex techniques

Discover some techniques and tips for male oral sex:

• Start by running the tip of your tongue up and down the base of the penis, pausing to circle the head with your tongue

• Show some love to the underside of your penis and then gently play with the brake with the tip of your tongue.

• Lick the entire length of the penis and repeat. You get bonus points if you let him hear how much you love doing this

• Hold the base of the penis with your hand and take the rest into your mouth, then move slowly up and down while sucking gently.

• They pick up the pace as their pleasure increases.
  

Comfortable positions

Again, with imagination you can give a blowjob in almost any position. We have three suggestions for you:

• Wide open. Lie on the bed with your head close to the edge and open your mouth wide while he sits with his head towards your legs and his cock over your mouth.

• Sit and suck. One chair, two ways. Have him sit on the chair while you kneel in front of him and give him a blowjob. Or you sit in the chair while he sits with his feet on either side of the chair. Go ahead, just bend over!

• Relaxed love. This is by far the most comfortable BJ position and is perfect for those lazy morning blowjobs. While he's lying on his back, lie on your side and use his body as a pillow. Once you are in this position you can use your hands and mouth for maximum satisfaction.

Safety and cleaning

For safety, our advice is simple: condoms with different flavors! That way you won't risk getting a sexually transmitted disease and the taste will be good. After you have finished sexual activity a quick shower is more than enough. Don't forget to brush your teeth too.

Common questions

Q: What should you do if they are not circumcised?

A: There is not much difference in technique whether the partner is circumcised or not. If you start with a hand touch, let the foreskin move up and down with the hand movement. When you're ready to lick it, gently pull the foreskin down to expose the head.

Q: Do you have to deepthroat?

A: No, not if you don't want to. Sexual gratification can be easily obtained even if the partner does not penetrate deeply. You can fake a deepthroat by putting the tip of your tongue on the roof of your mouth and sucking as much as you want without accidentally choking.

Q: Should you spit, swallow or make sure your partner ejaculates away from your mouth?

A: It's something to discuss with your partner beforehand, but you should never do anything you don't want to do. Sometimes it can be extremely sexy for your partner to ejaculate over your closed lips or over your chin - you need to discuss it beforehand to get both of you on the same page.

Useful tips if your partner wants to try anilingus

Anilicking involves stimulating the anus using the lips or tongue. The position is called "rimming" because it largely involves kissing or licking the outer edge ("rim") of the anus.

Useful techniques

In the following we have a series of useful techniques and tips that can make sexual intercourse much more enjoyable.

• Start by licking and kissing the buttocks for a few moments

• Place your tongue flat and relaxed just below the hole and lick gently up and down

• Straighten your tongue and use the tip to make circles around the hole, pressing gently and slowly at first, then getting firmer and faster as their pleasure increases.

• If you have agreed on penetration, now is the time to do it by gently inserting your tongue, a finger or a sex toy into your anus.

• Continue to use your tongue on or between the buttocks or perineum until the partner reaches the peak of pleasure.

Comfortable positions

The doggy-style position is usually the best position for rimming. It gives you equal control over pressure and movement to discover what works best for both of you.

To use this position the partner must sit doggy-style - meaning on all fours - and you will kneel behind them. For this position, partners can rest their heads on a pillow and raise or lower their bottoms to meet your mouth.

Safety and cleaning

Oral sex foils, tongue condoms, or a regular condom can be used as protection in case of anilingus. Clipped nails and clean hands are also important if you want to use your fingers in or around your anus.

It is enough for the partner to thoroughly clean the area in the shower or take a bath before intercourse. However, for added safety, an enema can be performed beforehand. After you finish don't forget to wash your hands and teeth.

Common questions

Q: Is there a risk of touching fecal material during oral sex?

A: We won't lie - it's a possibility. It is good that before sexual intercourse the partner who will be rimming takes a shower, or washes himself with a soft cloth, water and soap. Usually this is enough to get rid of traces of feces that persist in the anus.

Q: What do you do if there is hair there?

A: Nothing! Hair in the anal area does not prevent rimming in any way. The only problem is if the partner wants that area to be shaved. In this case, it's good to communicate in advance to know what each other's expectations are.

Q: Do you need to insert your tongue or do you prefer to keep the activity non-penetrative?

A: It all depends on your comfort level. You shouldn't stick your tongue anywhere you don't want to. If your partner is ok with this suggestion, fingers and butt plugs can do the penetration for you.

Other tips for successful oral sex

Communication in any sexual activity is the basis of successful sex. This also applies to oral sex. The first step to successful oral sex is to communicate with your partner about your preferred methods of giving each other oral pleasure. Some studies show that straight women may be more hesitant to ask their male partner for oral pleasure. However, the same study also showed that men wanted to have oral sex more often with their female partners.

Oral stimulation is an extremely intimate act. That's why it's good to talk with your partner about how you can please each other and what each other's limits are. Find out what you want to experience and what you don't. You can start by kissing, touching your partner's genitals, and then gradually move on to using your mouth in a way that will please your partner.

There are some tricks and practices that can have a positive impact on your sexual experience:

• Use your breath. Blow a little on the skin and watch how your breath will make them lose their minds

• Don't be shy to make noise. Let your partner know how much you like it.

• Maintain eye contact. Looking into your partner's eyes during oral sex is extremely sexy

• Don't forget to use your hands. Your touch will increase sexual satisfaction

• Use lubricant! Choose one with a pleasant taste to increase the level of pleasure.

• Orgasm control or edging is the perfect method to increase the level of pleasure. Bring your partner to the point of orgasm then stop for 30 seconds before starting the stimulation again

Frequently asked questions about oral sex

There are a lot of myths and misinformation about oral sex. Therefore, it is good to know as much as possible about this act for our health.

Who invented oral sex?

The answer to this question is a complex one. According to archaeologist Timothy Taylor, author of the book "The Prehistory of Sex" the oldest historical evidence of oral sex dates back to the Neolithic. A stone work depicts a woman and two men. The woman gives one of the men oral sex. In ancient times oral sex was mentioned in myths, legends and poems. Oral sex appears in the history and legends of all great peoples from the Greeks, Romans, Egyptians to the Chinese, Indians and Peruvians.

What happens if you swallow sperm?

If the partner does not suffer from a sexually transmitted disease, swallowing sperm can have beneficial health effects. The substances that make up the sperm lead to a better quality of sleep, reduce the risk of breast cancer and have anti-aging properties. However, if the partner has an STD there is a risk that it has been passed on.

Can you get pregnant if you have oral sex?

No, under no circumstances can you get pregnant if you have or are having oral sex.